We gotta fight

Been a while since I blogged. I haven’t been busy, but yes I’ve spent too much unnecessary time over a book that I should have never written in the first place. Not leaving anything complete, I have finished what I regret starting. We shall discuss that some other day. You and I can finally look forward to more blogs from me.

Fight for the right thing – it might not be there tomorrow.

I am disappointed at the world I see today. I see people who are sad, who are angry, frustrated. There is a look on their faces which tells me that they’re looking and hoping for more than what they currently have not knowing there are people in situations far worse than them.

These humans, I see are always fighting. Maybe, I think the reason is because they aren’t happy with that they have and perhaps they feel and in some cases know that they deserve much more. The world is not a fair place they say.

I look around and see the things for which people fight. This is exactly what my blog will speak about.

Wars are being fought throughout the world. Some with guns, some with hands and there is that select few that venture out to battle not with arms but with peace as their weapon. Men go with the sole aim of killing the person in another uniform, women spending days in hope that their husband may return, victorious and alive. Children of these men who are too young to know the difference between right and wrong are dragged into this for no fault of theirs. What are we fighting for at the end of the day is what I ask myself.

In earlier times and even today looked at land / territory has always been one of the main reasons as to why one fights. There are more and more people thus leading to less space per person. This naturally leads to suffocation, frustration for he feels that the space given to him is not enough. Such is man’s greed for territorial possession and power that words like greenery, environment and pollution have come into existence. There will come a time when we will have no place to go. This is why we are making the most of it and taking what is available. It all looks good from the outside, but we will pay a heavy price for this. And this day is fast approaching.

The other things I see as to why man is so ‘pissed off ‘is because he doesn’t have enough water, enough electricity / light, money and enough love. For many, the word enough is placed by no. There are people with no land, no water, and no light, no money and most importantly, no LOVE.

I see people living on the road spending nights in the chilly cold, others lining up for hours in front of one small municipal tap. Children much smarter and intelligent than me study in groups under street lights to pass their exams.

Money is not everything, we don’t realize its value when it’s there , we do when we don’t. The rich are getting richer and the poor are getting poorer. But one thing is common in both; no one is satisfied with what he has and wants more. Family disputes over property and wills seems to be the ‘in ‘thing today. With available resources being used by more people, prices of commodities will skyrocket. There is no denying that.

In the end, we all manage or the word that we Indians love to use, adjust. Things seem to be heading from bad to worse, but we do just fine. We need to wake up and realize there will come a day when the man on the road has no place to sleep; there will be no water from the tap, no light to guide us and no money to spend.

And now coming to my favorite topic, LOVE (Pyaar Gazab ki Cheez Hai ) . This is one department where one cribs when there is too much of it and he certainly sulks when there is no love at all. There are individuals who feel lonely despite being surrounded by huge numbers while there are some who find happiness even with one person who will be with them through thick and thin.

We fight in love, we fight to love, and we fight for love. Why do we? I don’t know. We don’t seem to reason in love, do we?

So at the end of the day I see people fighting, quarrelling over land, water, electricity, money and Love. These 5 are reducing with each passing day due to people demanding much more than what they deserve. We need a big wakeup call. We need some binding force for us to stand together. If you ask me, we are fighting too much, and for the wrong things. The way I see it, there is only one thing in this world worth fighting for.  And it is not Katrina Kaif.

It is a combination of land, water, sunlight, money and most importantly Love. These 5 are diminishing, and fast.  We are so busy fighting amongst ourselves that we forget by asking for more of these 5 elements we are putting an end to this one thing that the world is possessed by.

I am talking about CHOCOLATE, the only thing in this world fighting for.

We have dealt with space problems, water problems, load shedding , financial problems and all of us have spent a lot of time , effort and money on getting over Love (alcohol drinkers take note).

But can you imagine a world where Chocolate is no longer available due to there being no land to grow them on , water is all dried up , due to the damaged environment sufficient sunlight is not achieved . The rich are too involved in things much ‘important ‘than chocolate and for the poor, chocolate isn’t exactly top priority. Plus there might be a time where we might have to think twice before spending money on something as good as chocolate. When we come to love we see people are so engrossed in beating the hell out of each other that there is no love anymore. So how will the world get more chocolate?

If you want to fight, fight for Chocolate. Because there will come a day when there won’t be this tasty little thing to eat and savor. And since we are fighting for land, water, light and money and love you might as well fight for the thing which has all these five combined. Chocolate is more precious than you think.

So the next time you leave the house, just make sure the tap is not running, the switches are turned off. You are making a small contribution to the big picture - that is the world getting more and more chocolate.

But you won’t. And this is what will happen some years from now.

A person sitting in the bus ahead of you takes out a chocolate from his pocket. Before he can eat it, the entire lot in the bus rushes towards him for that one piece. Within minutes, I see his shirt torn and bruises all over his face. I doubt how many pieces of chocolate everyone managed to get. What a delightful sight. A last man standing battle just for a piece of chocolate. We don’t realize the importance of chocolate, one day we all will beg; beg for a piece of chocolate.

So the next time you go and eat a chocolate, think of what I just said. This chocolate was planted on land, given enough water and sunlight for it to end up in your hand. You are lucky enough to afford it. A lot of time and effort has been spent in that chocolate being produced. You might be eating this lovely thing. But you’re children might not be lucky enough. If there is no land, water, light and love, something as common as chocolate even though available might burn more than just a hole in your pocket.

So don’t think about tomorrow. Enjoy the chocolate while you eat it. What you can do is start from the present.

Chocolate is the only thing I never share and rightly so. There might not be a Dairy Milk, Kit Kat, Perk and Milkybar tomorrow. If Adit, on those very rare occasions gives you a chocolate, just remember you really mean something to him and have done something good.

And for the sad lot who say no when I/someone offers you a chocolate 

Fuck You Too !!!

The Green Dot

Today’s blog talks something that most of us can relate to, online chatting. We spend hours glued to the computer typing line after line building conversation talking about things we like and things we don’t. We chat with our friends, sometimes enemies and even the category of friends who are now no more than strangers who come into this list.

I shall be talking about the exact same thing, but as is the case with me, I shall do it in a different way. I’ve been on both sides of the fence so I won’t take sides. Chatting online is an important tool to help build conversation but at the same time making inroads in a face to face conversation is key. This online-offline setting is different with each relationship a person has. What is my stance regarding her, I shall discuss someday else. Not today.

What separates chatting from other modes of conversation is that it isn’t face to face so it gives people that are shy a better chance to open up. This is something we see a lot around us; people who can’t open their mouth when it comes to a face-to face conversation are the kings of the online world when it comes to chatting.

Calling/messaging the person are the other options one has. But in these cases the person might be busy, sleeping when you try to get in touch. But this is not the case with chatting. You see, there something that tells you the person is ready. 

Yes my friends, I am talking about that small green dot you see besides your friend’s name on Facebook. If you ask me, it’s much more than a small green dot. That green dot is the difference between a good mood and bad mood. Do I think about the conversation I just had with her after shutting down the computer or is my mood fucked since she wasn’t online. Everything depends on that one green dot.

This green dot tells you that the person is not busy, not sleeping and is on the computer/device wanting to talk to someone. Are you that person, well that depends on one click of a button. This is exactly what I’m going to talk about.

Be it at home or college (thank you Mumbai University for the Wi-Fi) I spend a good 5-6 hours online every day. This time is spent tweeting, listening to songs on Youtube, and checking email. But majority of the time is spent on Facebook where I post jokes (will get better and better), comments on certain groups. This Facebook time is further divided into ‘Facebook chatting time ‘which takes up more than 80% of my total time spent on the computer.  

I spend hours chatting with people the entire day. But I don’t see that green dot besides her name. This if you ask me is the reason why I spend so much time online, because she isn’t online and I am waiting, waiting and waiting. Due to this I pass my time chatting about the most basic things with my friends. This goes on and on and has to because should that green dot appear after I turn down the computer then the entire ‘effort’ goes waste. No gain, no pain (Daddy pays electricity bill). This is the power of that one green dot.

You want that green dot to appear next to her name . You want to chat with her . She , at that point of time means everything to you . You will give anything for that dot to appear besides her name . There is so much inside that you want to tell her . She might not be online now but there is that uncontrollable urge to talk/type with her is what makes you stay. You know you want to talk , sometimes much more than talk , and thus you know you have to wait . You have no choice . This is why I love , love . 

So the entire day is spent just waiting for that green dot to appear besides her name. If you’re having one of those days, you’ll give up and shut the machine down.  But that moment when you see the green dot on the right of her name is what makes up for all those hours of waiting. All those hours of waiting and frustration goes out of the window just by seeing that green dot appear now . The girl you like is now online. Let’s have a fucking conversation now !!!

And it’s due to this, you spend hardly a second clicking her name and typing something (girls, this is exactly the reason why guys initiate Facebook chats, because they have been waiting) thus starting a conversation.

And then there’s me – I sometimes wait the whole day waiting for that green dot to appear. After hours of waiting, that green dot appears, and I go offline. Pyaar Gazab ki Cheez Hai .

Have a nice day …

He's no more

“Gone With the Wind "

Whenever Adit Ganguly checked his weight at the railway station the automated voice always used to say “Please Step Again " at least 5 times before the chit could come out.  His friends and family constantly used to make him aware of the fact on how badly does he need to gain weight.

But as the fun loving boy that he was Adit ignored them all and listened to what his heart said not knowing that his weight would be the cause of his death.

The “beanstalk “ as he was fondly called was swept away by the sea at Versova Beach on Monday , 23^rd June 2012. It’s a sad incident for the near and dear but it doesn’t come as a shock to those who really knew him. He needed to gain weight as simple as that. The fact that he didn’t know how to swim also didn’t help his cause.

“Beanstalk “will be remembered as the tall and lanky lad who always went out of his way to help those in need. He was one who loved roadside food and swore by Himesh Reshamiya.

He gave up non-vegetarian food not knowing how badly he needed to gain weight. This resulted in common fights with his mother and their dog “Simba “gaining 5 kilos due to the fish and chicken at his disposal. 

Besides family he had to bear the constant nagging of his girlfriend who was a good 15 kilos heavier than him.  He couldn’t help it; she was born in a family of wrestlers. She tried her best to make him gain weight 

but “Beanstalk “was stubborn as a mule. This resulted in constant fights on who needs to lose and who needs to gain weight but women think they’re right most of the time.

Due to this “ Beanstalk “ faced depression and frustration in life. He started hating the things he once used to love. He started smoking and behaving aggressively with everyone. In a way its good things ended this way as it was just a matter of time before they broke up.

He was also well known in the Lokhandwala and Versova footballing circle. His friends are now faced with a huge problem as they have to come up with a replacement for a goalpost.

We live, and we die. At the funeral, he’s sure no one will cry.

Funeral Venue and Time - Tuesday , 24th July 2012 . Versova Cremation Ground 4pm 

Dress Code – Please don’t wear White . Adit loved Football so much he’d like it if you guys turned up in the jersies of the football teams you support . And if you don’t watch Football and want to turn up , just don’t wear white . 

A cocktail you'll enjoy

When I heard Tumhi Ho Bandhu for the first time, the word Pritam immediately came to my mind.  Cocktail’s title seems to be the latest entry playing on most of my friend’s mobile phones and rightly so. Right from the first line, you know that this is a song that you want to hear on repeat. Such is Kavita Seth’s voice that right from the first line sung by her one wants to hear the song another time. Accompanied by Neeraj Shridhar, the duo make you fall in love with the song doing absolute justice to the tempo and lyrics. This song’s going to be on top of the charts for a quite some time. I just hope Pritam hasn’t lifted this song from anywhere, would be a real mood kill if he did (won’t be surprised if he did at the same time).

Daaru Desi is peppy right from the word go (nice guitar intro). Interesting and different lyrics accompanied by Benny Dayal vocals (wish he would sing more songs) make this another song that you must have on your phone. Also, a shout goes to the female vocalist who complements Benny very well. Two songs down and I’ve already decided to watch this movie. Good job Pritam (fuck knows how)

Yaariyan is one of those songs that you can listen to when you look outside the window of your home or car window (very much an on the move song, the peaceful types). My expectations from the number went up a notch when I read Shilpa Rao’s name below the name of the song and she doesn’t disappoint. I don’t know who Mohan Kanan is, but whoever you are, thanks for giving your voice to this song. 3 songs down and I wonder if this can be really a work of art from the man we know as Pritam.

Song names seem to get weirder by the day; Second Hand Jawani gives you the exact same feeling. Lyrics are even weirder than the name. If you’re the person who likes what others don’t like then this song is for you. The female voice was just not for my liking. Halfway into the song and you’ll hit next.

Pritam combines English and Hindi/Punjabi lyrics in Tera Naam Japdi Phiran. The English lyrics are the ones that you hear in any hip-hop number, heard one you’ve heard all. This needs to change, fast. This song will play a lot in gym’s I feel. The Hindi/Punjabi part of the song is the saving grace. Heard the song twice and that was it.

Luttna starts off on such a sober note (good one that too) and midway into the song the song gets so loud that you want to remove your headphones. Why Pritam Why? (Started off so well). Song keeps moving from sober to loud and back. Even if you download this one, I’ll give it 5 hearings max before you delete it.

I liked Jugni, I really did. Punjabi lyrics (can’t understand them but you like the language regardless) being the main reason. Give it a listen.

The reprise version of Yaariyan sung by Sunidhi Chauhan and Arijit Singh doesn’t grab your attention right from the start which the normal version does. But Sunidhi shows what an accomplished singer she is. The best female singer in the industry at the moment if you ask me, but there’s something missing in this one that makes the original one better.

Luttna has a reprise version as well, and I give this one less than 5 hearings before you delete it. The soft part of the song is all that you want to hear. Once the song goes loud you want to bang your head (different type of head banging mind you). There will surely be a segment of the audience that likes this song. Want to hear their side of the story.

Tera Naam Japdi Phiran has a’ Version 2.0’; it’s just another song in the album if you ask me. Download this or the original one, won’t make a difference.

Angrezi Beat is a song sung by Honey Singh is a Punjabi number that’ll be used in the movie. A song that people will dance to at parties.

Songs that you MUST DOWNLOAD – Tumhi Ho Bandhu, Daaru Desi, Yaariyan.

Songs that you could download and will eventually end up liking – Luttna, Jugni , Angrezi Beat

Songs that you will ‘keep’ but not delete neither listen after some time  – Tera Naam Jaapdi Phiran

Please DO NOT DOWNLOAD – Second Hand Jawaani

I’ll give credit where due and say that Pritam has made sure that the music sales of Cocktail will be high. He’s made sure that people will end up flocking the theatres come July 13. A good soundtrack by the man was long time overdue, Pritam hasn’t disappointed.

Number ' BY HEART '

Good for Memory this thing on top 

We don't need to remember things thanks to the emerging technologies that make our life much simpler. Add to that , the frequency at which we use the same piece of information in our day to day life , remembering/recollecting it is not a very tough task.

Telecommunication has come a long way in the areas of memory . Growing up , we maintained diaries where the numbers of the people we knew were stored . This is a big reason why we still remember most of our childhood friend's land line numbers since we had to read the number from somewhere and dial it . These numbers were easily memorized on how often we called them .

But now the scenario is different , with mobile phones , one one longer has to remember the contact number of a particular person . The diary that we once had is now a phonebook / contact list where the number is saved and all that the caller has to do is type the name and dial .

My blog today shall talk about memory , mobile phones and my favorite topic , LOVE .

None of us can do without a mobile phone in today's world . We have become slaves to this device with it now becoming an integral part our lives . All information that we have/want to seek can be accessed via a mobile phone . But what happens when our mobile phone gets lost and we spend those few minutes of panic trying to remember whose number we remember by heart is what I shall talk about today.

Who are the people that I could contact in times of such an ' emergency ' . Not including the land line numbers of my childhood friends ( which are now disconnected ) there were 3 mobile numbers till last week that I knew by heart . Till last week . Now there are 4 ( I think you know where we're going )

Let me talk about my 3 ' saviors ' first , then I'll talk about the one that you people want to know about.

1) Daddy - Person who bought me the mobile phone . Remembering his number is my thank you gift

2) Brother - Don't talk to him as much ( I love you Mudit ) but his number is easy to remember

3) Best Friend for the past 5 years - Football , guy/girl issues , the works . Speak to him at least thrice a day.

Do not remember's Mom's number . Doodh Ka Karz . Sorry Mummy .

And now , let's talk about person number 4 ( if you were really smart , you'd skip the start and come right here )

So who is this person number 4 . Let me bring that smile on your faces by stating what I think you guys would have already guessed by now

Savior number 4 is a GIRL ( Here we go again . Adit , you really need to stop )

How do I know her number by heart is not important . It is the WHY do I know her number by heart is what you people want to know .

Well , let me make things more interesting by telling you that her number wasn't that easy to memorize . So WHY do I know it ?

Secondly , I don't communicate that often with #4 that often . So WHY do I know those 10 digits at the back of my hand and not someone's else who I talk to much more . #4 might be down the pecking order when it comes to who I'll call in an emergency . #4 might/will surely find it extremely odd ( I'm hoping she finds it funny ) that I remember her number . What follows should such an event in the future occur is what I am looking forward to with eager anticipation.

To the people around me - If you want to know who this person is , all you need to do is ... I won't tell you who I called , she will tell you people who called her .

And last but not the least a song for all you people which is very close to our hearts

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HhHrV5UsQ_Q

very much single

My very first blog spoke about goodbyes, and then what followed were condolences, working harder to be on the other side. Even though what was written was true and straight from the heart, I made people emotional, they realized that things were going to end and we’re not prepared for it. So yeah, I didn’t start things in the happiest way possible.

So let’s talk about something good, something nice. Let’s talk about Love (Pyaar/Ishq/Mohabat )

I am very much single. You’re supposed to fall in love when you are READY, not when you’re LONELY. I am READY xD

So let me write the question that everyone will ask me – WHAT ‘TYPE’ of girl do I want?

This blog shall talk exactly about this. So what is my TYPE?

Hindu, Christian, Punjabi, Buddhist, Parsi, Sindhi, Gujarati, South Indian, Bengali. Religion, caste and all that minority group bullshit is something that you’ll find in a ‘ India’s Rich Culture and Heritage ‘ textbook , not inside my head.  (See what I did there, I didn’t mention someone for a good reason. Read the line again). As long as she has 2 hand, 2 legs, 1 nose, 2 ears, 2 eyes , 2 lips , 2 breasts , I don’t care . Tall, short, fat, thin, curvy, flat anyone will do. This is the least of my concerns.

Love I think is done on an emotional level and not using rationale. But I see and do things on a very practical level and thus I’ve made a list using not only my heart but the organ that we call the brain  which should make it easier for my friends who are trying their level best to help me find the SPECIAL ONE. This list will help them filter the choices and lead them to my TYPE of girl.

THE TEN COMMANDMENTS

·         Should be able to walk as fast as me – This is the most important rule for me and a major reason why my friends have been so unsuccessful. I am yet to find a girl who can walk as fast as me. It goes without saying that you’ll spend a lot of time walking with your loved one and it simply doesn’t make sense if she can’t walk at the same pace as you. I have seen how fast some girls walk and I just cannot tune myself to that pace. You crawl when you are a baby, not when you are in your early twenties.

·         Chicken Girl – Pigs are filthy animals, fine. Cows are holy, I can understand. Water from the sea is dirty so I don’t eat fish, benefit of the doubt. But for heaven’s sake please eat chicken. I just can’t see myself with a girl who has stopped / never tasted chicken in her life. I cannot visualize myself eating butter chicken while the girl sitting beside me is having muttar paneer. Having a vegetarian girlfriend is just not going to work.

·         Dropping/Picking up Theory – Love overcomes all distances and barriers, with me there will always be exceptions. I shall state with an example

I stay in Versova, Andheri (West), if she stays for example in Mulund and we have to ‘spend time on day together ‘in Colaba. I am NOT taking a train from Andheri to Dadar and another train from Dadar to Mulund and then another train from Mulund to CST to pick her up and go together. And you’ve got to be crazy if you think I am going to repeat the return journey. Love makes you do stupid things where you go to any ‘lengths’ to keep the other person happy. Let’s be practical here (Girl from the central line is going to be a problem, So is Kandivali, Borivali , let’s not even talk about Virar).

On the other hand, I am also very considerate if you stay close to Andheri or we’re going to a place that is convenient for both of us I will spend an hour before the decided date waiting for you below your building (I have a weakness for reaching places well before time). So you see, I am a nice guy , who thinks practically.

·         Should have basic knowledge about the world of sports – And by sports I don’t just mean cricket. If you only watch cricket then I’m sorry, If you watch football please give me your number, If you’re one of those few girls who supports a club by the name of Chelsea. Why haven’t we met yet?  Having a girlfriend who knows a little bit or two about the world of sport is a major turn on for me.

·         No phone calls during football matches – The girl that likes me should know what football means to me. I have no shame in admitting that Football will always come before her. There is absolutely no point debating this. Those two hours where I sit in front of the TV belong to me and me alone. I don’t entertain any phone calls when I watch a football match. This applies to family, friend and will also apply to girlfriend. Don’t want any ‘Missing you ‘, ‘Hi Honey ‘nonsense when I am watching football. I schedule my studying program around the timings of football matches; it’ll be really helpful if she does the same. Will never say no to help. But there is a time and place for everything. Those two hours clearly aren’t.

·         Sense of humour – One thing which I find in very few girls. Major requirement for me. There should never be a dull moment with her. The ‘time flies with you ‘type of girl. At the same time should be graceful when at the receiving end of jokes. Being a good sport counts.

·         Should not use a Blackberry – I don’t want to waste time explaining why. Scroll down for next point.

·         Favourite colour must NOT be PINK – Fantasize about Edward Cullen for all I care, but please no pink.

·         Should not expect flowers and bouquets. One of the last things that I’ll be wasting my money on. I cannot get them for free since I am not a gardener/florist.  One thing that you can expect from me (and loads of it) is chocolates. Rest assured.

·         And last but not the least; she like me should be a kid trapped in an adult’s body. I know one when I see one.

And the search continues … 

A phone not made for me

If it ain't broke , don't fix it . This seems to be the case with me when it comes to mobile phones . I've been using a Samsung C3200 since Feb 2011 and it's in tip top shape. Despite this , I've been at the receiving end of being asked to get a ' better ' phone by the people I know . My dad is part of this list as he feels that I could certainly do with an improved phone than the one I currently use . Most sons would jump at the opportunity of getting a new handset , but lets just say I'm happy with what I got.

Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to have a new/better phone . I look around me and see this device called the ' Blackberry ' which seems to be another organ of the human body. Everybody around me has one , my friends as well as my enemies . Should I fall prey to this and buy one ( Curve costs less than 10k I've heard ) . I've faced many crossroads in my life where I have to choose what is best for me. The choice between buying a BB and not buying one has taken me the least amount of time to decide.

In college there was a time when everyone was happy with their Nokia's and Samsung's . Then one day this new thing called a Blackberry entered our lives and took everyone by storm. Feeling left out is not an option for the youth of today and soon you saw black , red , white blackberry's all around you . It was the new toy to play with , not trapped by its lure I soon was one of the few people who didn't have a BB ( No BB and Proud )

Due to this phenomena ' they ' were connected in a much better way. Distances were narrowed with strangers became friends and friends became partners . BBM became the new ' IN ' thing . People around me had their heads hung down most of the time ( in shame ? ) which made me wonder on what was it on the other side that I was missing out on . Did I have to buy this phone because I wanted to or because some people wanted to.

Why I will never buy a Blackberry ( explained in bullet points to make it simpler )

1. Let me start by coming straight to the point - if i had to buy one , I'd have bought one a long time back . I haven't  . Move down for point 2
2. The day my current phone goes kaput I am getting an Android phone ( Samsung/HTC ) . Have included this point for those who are desperate for me to get a new phone . 
3. Just for a select few who have a BB , I am not going to buy one 

I think I do pretty well when it comes to staying in touch with those who have one . Facebook is always there , I do message them once in a while . For those that I'm not in touch with , buying a BB won't change things . Never thought about you , buying a Blackberry won't change things . 

What I'm saying is true . When you buy an I-pod / music player . You may have 200+ songs on it . But how many do you listen to every day . What is your favorite song today may not be your favorite song tomorrow . You may listen to a song that you heard for the first time 15 years ago and continue to listen to this day. You add new songs and you delete some . We treat people in the same way as we treat our songs. One phone is not going to change things . 

4. Now coming to the most important point  - The ' She/Her ' Theory . 

We have done crazy things when we like someone . Buying a mobile phone is very much part of this list. We have to stay ' in touch ' after all don't we ? 

Dilemma number one - Does ' she ' have a Blackberry ? 

Two possible answers 

a) Yes , She does - Do I need to buy one now ? How important is it for me to buy a Blackberry ? Will my chances increase ? Is she really worth it ? 10k for a phone for a girl ?

If I have managed to ' keep in touch ' with ' Her ' without me having a BB then how does she having a BB make any difference . 

b) No , She doesn't - Then why should I buy one . 1000 free message package zindabad !!! 

But the problem with me is that many ' She's ' have come and gone . But we shall discuss this later . We're talking about phones today . I won't buy a phone with certain features so that I get to know ' Her ' better . 

So yeah , my birthday's in 161 days . I could very well ask for a new phone . Shall do my research on which phone to buy and which not to . Rest assured , it won't be a B********Y .